Let’s stop saying “I’ve got Mental Health”

Somewhere along the way, mental health became a buzzword. “I’ve got mental health” is said like it’s a virus or a temporary fault, something that flares up and goes away when things settle down.

But let’s be honest. We all have mental health. Every day. Just like physical health, it’s something we carry with us, sometimes light, sometimes heavy - always worth tending to.

What we’re often not doing is talking about why we feel the way we do.

We label it as “anxiety” or “low mood,” but what if that label is just covering the root cause?

Because sometimes it’s not just anxiety.

It’s:

• Heartbreak: that’s still lodged in your chest from a breakup no one saw coming.

• Grief: for the person, the identity, or the life you used to have.

• Work stress: that never switches off, not even when your laptop closes.

• Sleep deprivation: you're exhausted, you're surviving on caffeine and autopilot.

• Parenting pressure: that leaves no room to breathe, let alone to be alone with your own thoughts.

• Relationship strain: emotional labour, disconnection, or carrying the mental load alone.

Let’s call it what it is: life is heavy sometimes. It’s not a glitch in your system, it’s a natural response to ongoing pressure, emotional depletion, and too many roles with not enough support.

We’ve become so quick to say “my mental health is bad” instead of naming what’s really going on.

But honesty is where healing begins.

“I’m carrying more than I can hold right now.”

“My relationship is exhausting me emotionally.”

“I love my kids, but I miss myself.”

“I’m not coping, and I don’t want to pretend I am.”

This isn’t weakness. This is truth. This is courage.

Your emotions are not problems.

They are messages. And when we stop treating them like symptoms to manage and start seeing them as signals to explore, everything begins to shift.

At the She Said Club, we create space for these honest conversations, about love, motherhood, exhaustion, self-worth, and starting over.

Because you don’t just “have” mental health. You live it.

Let’s talk about it, not just the label, but the life behind it.