Well, any holidays this year? Are you going out this weekend? Any plans? Any craic?
Remember those conversations that we took for granted in the hairdressers?
Jesus, did we ever think we would miss that banter?
I don't know about you all but I certainly have struggled more with the second lockdown than the first. I thought the end was in sight, as in Covid-19 was on its way out ... I got that wrong!
For those of you who know me, would say that I am positive, pretty optimistic, up-beat and just get on with things, however, over the last few weeks I have barely got out of my gym gear (please note just because I am in active wear does not necessarily mean I am being active). I have continued putting my face on for Zoom calls, to enable and maintain some level of professionalism. I have the most beautiful wardrobe full of dresses and heels which haven’t come off the hanger or touched my toe since early March.
For once in my life I could actually feel a negative energy creeping over me, sheer frustration.
Every day like Groundhog Day.
The same conveyor belt process. Wake up. Coffee. Twitter. Computer on. Emails open. Spin class. Dinner. Bed. Work, eat, sleep repeat. (Now, just to caveat sounding like a moaning Myrtle – I actually LOVE my job!).
Being in shitty form however is alien to me. I never do the poor me. Covid-19 has exposed a whole new set of feelings I’ve never experienced before.
As you can imagine I was not going to let this pity party absorb me any longer. The grey cloud of “when the fxxk will this BS pass?” needed to pass ASAP. The reality is we need to learn how live with CV19.
I started skimming through positive quotes, motivational words of wisdom that would shake off my Coronavirus-minus vibe.
Then thanks to Emma Winterschladen’s article in You magazine on the 15th November discussing “How to flex your happy muscles” it occurred to me … it’s my decision how I feel, it’s no one else’s responsibility to make me happy. The buck starts and stops with me!
Linus and I decided to watch a wee Sunday night movie “The Secret: Dare to Dream” a new American drama film based on the 2006 self-help book. All about the law of attraction and the power of positivity.
So, to all of you reading this I want you to ask and answer the following honestly to yourself:
When was the last time you appreciated all that you have?
When was the last time you felt a sense of gratitude?
When was the last time you turned the Wifi off and put your phone on silent?
When was the last time you went outdoors into the fresh air and totally disconnected?
When was the last time you had a good belly laugh with friends and family?
When was the last time you allowed yourself to just chill?
Are you eating well?
Are you taking time for some actual self-care?
When was the last time you had a good cry?
When was the last time you tried something different, painting, going for a run, baking?
When was the last time you looked in the mirror and told yourself you are good enough?
If you haven’t answered the above questions to yourself in a long-time, make a cuppa and take note of your answers today!
The beauty of all of these questions is that if you haven’t allowed yourself to be grateful for a roof over your head, food on the table and a warm bed, then today is the day to start.
Having read Emma’s article, having watched the movie, having had a chilled out Sunday, as cliched as it all sounds, my mindset changed. Centred again. I went to bed with a grateful heart and ready to embrace Monday with new vigour and energy.
I suppose my message to you is that if you are struggling today, you can change your frequency. You can choose to have a glass half empty, you can choose to see all the negatives, but what if you tweaked it slightly to see all the opportunities and to change your perspective only a few degrees?
I don’t know about you, but I love a glass that’s overflowing and that’s the way I am going to try and keep it!
Remember guys – this too shall pass, keep your chins up.